Recently at one of my places of employment, a silly 20-something girl made comments about women, that when they reach the age of 50, they should stop having sex.
Needless to say this sparked a heated debate among my coworkers, who for the most part are in their 50s, or are fast approaching. And what about those in their 30s? If we were to believe this girl, we had a little over 10 years left of our ‘sexality’!
This topic swirled around for the next week, drawing discomfort from both the girl as well as the 50-somethings in the office.
My friends at Adam & Eve were nice enough to offer their take on the whole matter. Take a look at their guest post below, by Lisa Roberts.
Remember when you were younger and just learning what sex really was? You were obviously intrigued in all aspects of it, but when it came to others, specifically your parents, there was just no way they were still doing it. Hello! People don’t have sex when they get older. I mean, that’s definitely the rational I went through.
As we’ve aged and actually surpassed the age that we thought sex took a turn for a worse, we realized that sex does still happen, often even. But while it can still be as exciting as it ever was there are some definite changes.
Gone are the days, when our bodies were lithe and supple. Sadly, they are no longer like they once were in our 20′s, able to go all night and then get up early to go to work. Now it’s, “Does my hip hurt today? No. Ok, we can do it”.
Our bodies change in so many ways beyond the painful hip, though. If you’re a woman approaching 50, you’re likely to see a change in the way you sexually react and perform. Brush up on what to expect when you’re expecting (to age and still get it on!).
Thanks to our good friend, menopause, you’re likely to experience vaginal dryness. An issue that can bother you throughout the day and definitely be an issue in the bedroom. To combat this problem, be sure to keep a bottle of Adam & Eve lube by your nightstand table, so that you’ll be prepared when sleep time turns to sexy time.
If you find that it’s more than just a little nuisance, consider talking to your doctor about hormone replacement therapy. This can help you feel a little more “balanced” as well as help with the dryness.
Menopause can also cause you to lose some of your libido thanks to the changes in hormones. So you’ll find that you aren’t in the mood as much as you once were and it might even take you longer to get excited.
Try battling this issue by just diving in and hitting the sheets anyway. Sometimes engaging in sexual activity can trigger our minds to want it again.
You may also find that you’re beginning to resent the way your body is changing. Things will droop, sag and and lose their elasticity; it’s all part of the natural aging process. Unfortunately, these feelings aren’t really conducive for making you want to shed your clothes and engage in a little sexual activity though. Forget about dwelling on these feelings and learn to love yourself for who you are.
We all go through this and deal with these same emotions. Think about doing something about if you feel incredibly self conscious about it. Change the way you eat and consider starting up an exercise program.
Now, there are always ways you can be proactive with your sex life, whether you start in your 40s or even in your 50s or 60s. I consider it being proactive as long as you haven’t died.
Any sexual activity before death is proactivity!
Like I said before, make an effort to engage in sexual activity even when you’re not in the mood. Consider getting a set of Ben Wa Balls if you’ve been suffering from incontinence or merely don’t want to (have sex). Using these balls to do kegel exercises will help you tighten the walls of your pelvic floor and therefore make your bladder stronger and your vagina tighter.
Now that we’ve dished on the bad, let’s be honest. Sex in our 50s is still pretty great!
There might be some bad things, but there are a lot of pluses. We can’t get pregnant anymore, there are no more kids to barge in on you and your partner, you have a lot more free time, you know what you want and you’re stable.
What is the worst change you’ve experienced as you’ve aged?